Hi Happiness

"Don't give your everything when you're in love, because when he leaves you, you'll be left with nothing and end up crying and hurt"

I've been hearing this line for so many years already. I used to believe on this but I realized that this line only works for those who don't really know how to love.  Sorry, no offense meant, but I think people who believe on this are scaredy cats and selfish. 

Yes, I was a scaredy cat and selfish before.  I entered in relationships but I didn't give my everything to it; I didn't give my full trust, my full love, and yes, I was also selfish, too.  Ironic, though, because when all these relationships ended, I was left crying and hurt.  And I also ended up thinking a lot of "what ifs". 

That's why I realized that when we enter in a relationship, we must give everything to it to make it work. So what if we would look stupid once in a while? It's okay, it's normal.  And, our partner deserves our full love and trust and loyalty.  I'm not saying that by giving everything would give us an assurance that our relationships would work.  No, that's not what I'm trying to point out.  Nothing can give us an assurance that relationships will last.  What I'm trying to say is, should our relationships don't last, at least, we know on ourselves that we can love truly, that we did our part. And should it last, then we know on ourselves that we really deserve it because we worked hard on it and we've been true to our partner and to the relationship since day 1. 

And don't worry about not being able to love again after getting hurt.  We can still love after this, the fact that we're still alive is an indication that we are still capable of loving <3